Today, I was told “just let it go” a few times in a conversation. The “let it go” was in reference to an object. I found it a curious comment, since I rarely hold on to possessions and, with ease, give them away.
I found it curious that this person did not realize that the “thing” to which I was holding, if I were holding anything at all, was actually something intangible, something far more precious and valuable than any object. That is, friendship.
Friendship, whether young or old, is far more important in our lives than any item that can be purchased. It is through the connections that we build with others that we truly learn about ourselves and the process of living. Sometimes the connections that we form are unhealthy for us, damaging, and can darken our perception of ourselves and the world around us. Other times, our connections can pull us out of the temporary abyss in which we sometimes find ourselves.
As time accumulates with each passing moment, I have come to understand that there is nothing truly to which we can hold, except ourselves.
This connection that we have with ourselves is one to be nurtured and acts as a guide through even the most difficult of moments.Thus, even as we make or lose connection with others, we never let go of ourselves.
To my young friend, who advised me to “let it go,” I say there is no “it” of which one must let go. Rather, one must simply let go…of every “thing” that one has ever desired to possess.
For many years, I have maintained an “open embrace,” allowing others to come into and go out of my life as they choose. It is the way in which I prefer to live, i.e. neither feeling the need to hold on nor having the necessity to let go of…
Until Next Time,
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