[Reblog] BPD & Object Constancy, Or, Why I Love Presents

[Reblog] BPD & Object Constancy, Or, Why I Love Presents

Blog post by Jess, who has been diagnosed with borderline personality disorder, major depressive disorder, social anxiety disorder, and delayed sleep-phase disorder.

“Anyone in therapy or studying a form of psychology might be familiar with the concept of “object constancy”.  This refers to a person’s ability to recreate or remember feelings of love that were present between themselves and another person after the other person is no longer physically there.
  
For as long as I can remember, this has been something I have struggled with.  Even in primary school, I can recall how much I’d treasure scraps of notepaper from class that would “prove” I had interacted with a friend via some scribbles, or any other token or souvenir that could only be attained by being someone’s friend.  Photos or presents are ideal.  Whatever the keepsake, I never have enough.  It never feels like enough.” 

[Reblog] When the Borderline Becomes the Therapist

[Reblog] When the Borderline Becomes the Therapist

Article by Gerri Luce

“My cousin and I were shopping for work clothes for my new social worker job when I pulled a long sleeved blouse from the rack.

“How’s this for my first day?” I asked her.

“You’ll sweat to death.”

I looked at her.  “I need to cover my scars.”

I had scars on both my arms, on my forearms and upper arms. I had been diagnosed with borderline personality disorder about 20 years ago following two suicide attempts. I had been cutting myself for years before that. When I was in a particularly fanciful mood, I would slice words into my flesh, such aspig and cow, becauseI was also anorexic and imagined myself to be round, like those animals.”