I woke this morning tired. Mind you, I had only fallen asleep four hours before. It’s a hazy morning, humid but tolerable with an intermittent breeze. I’m annoyed. Why? Because I’m tired, because it’s humid, because my mood took a slight dip while I wasn’t paying attention. My first thought: I suck.
It’s not an uncommon thought for many, even if worded differently. It’s the thought that rises when you believe that there is something you could do but haven’t, or that you have done but shouldn’t, etc. In this moment, I suck because I’m tired and feeling lazy due to the humidity. I suck because my joints and muscles ache and I would prefer not to move.
Of course, the reality is that I do not suck. Actually, I’m quite a lovely person, who tries her best at all times. I just happen to have this type of response every now and again when it comes to dealing with my fibromyalgia. It’s also a consequence of being perfectionistic.
So, how will I get myself out of this funk? And how can you? Well, I’m giving myself the proverbial reality check. There are somethings that are within my control and beyond my control, including my body, my environment and the weather. What’s the point of beating myself up? There is none.
Putting myself down is a slippery slope that leads only to lowered self-esteem—and I’m not about that life. The life that I’m about is one that lifts and heals the spirit, the body, and the mind. I’m working on transforming that I suck statement into something more self-empowering, but first I have to confront with what’s really going on, take stock of my reality, and take action to improve my day. I hope you will too! 🙂
In the meanwhile, check out this great personal article by analyst and professor Jane Boylton, Psy.D., M.F.T., “How Reality Checking Can Save Your Life & Your Dreams: You Can Easily Avoid One Sure Way to Suffer” (PsychologyToday)