The title is a tongue twister. I dare you to say it fast 7 times.
What happens when a perfectionist develops fibromyalgia? Well, I’ve spent the past 8 years learning the answer.
I don’t often speak or write about being a perfectionist. In fact, embracing imperfection, especially when it comes to body image and fibromyalgia, is often at the core of my blog posts, including this one. The topic, however, has been on my mind over the past month as I transition from being a student to being gainfully employed. 😉
So, what have I learned over the past 8 years? Well, I won’t summarize it in this post. One day , however, I’ll probably write a book about it…the subject feels that heavy. For today, I wanted to share with you 3 steps that I’ve taken to being perfect at being imperfectly perfect.
3 Steps to Being a Perfectly Imperfect-Perfect You
- Chuck the Planner–Literally. Toss that thing in the trashcan…but do it perfectly. Instead, invest in notepads and write anything you need to do for the next day/moment/whatever and stick the note somewhere you are likely to see it and, thus, remember, e.g. on your computer, mirror, refrigerator, front door, whatever. Just make sure you find the perfect spot for them.
- Downsize Your Goals–Thinking about hiking Mt. Everest tomorrow? Well, how about downsizing that to hiking your local trail today? What I mean is, focus your thoughts on doing what you can right now, in this very minute. I know that my perfectionism has been both a great help and a massive hindrance to achieving goals. Of course, I still have goals. However, I have modified them by breaking them down (mentally) into smaller achievable steps. Also…I now focus on enjoying the process instead of the product.
- Ignore Everyone–Meaning, ignore their opinions. If there is one thing I know about being a perfectionist is that the opinion of others really mattered to me. I would choose to do something or not based upon how others would respond. Of course, this can be a good thing…but it can also be very detrimental, especially if you are creative–what is it that you haven’t painted, written, played, done etc. because you fear the response of others? Well, right now, this very second, is the time to say enough is enough and pick up that paintbrush, pen, sheet music, etc. and do what you want to do.
Bonus Tip: Learn to listen to your thoughts, feel your feelings, heed your body, embrace your resilient spirit. You won’t be perfect at first, and you will be judged (don’t worry…they’re not perfect either). However, if you keep working on it, you will become a perfectly imperfect-perfect you.
Hey, this life is in this moment. How do you want to spend it?
Looking for more on letting go of perfectionism? Read this.