It’s super-easy to get bogged down in the reasons why having fibromyalgia sucks: you can’t do this, you can’t do that, etc., etc.
Well, how about focusing not on the moment that’s sucking the life out of you, but the possibilities of the next moments?
I’m usually big on being mindful to moment, but let’s be serious: there are some moments that it’s just not worth it. And reflecting on the past can be a double-edged sword. You can begin to mourn who or how or what you used to be, instead of focusing on the positives of the past.
So, it might just be useful to look forward to the unknown future. Allow yourself to dream your possibilities, and then…
let them go.
Yes, let them go. Whatever you imagine that you can or will do and that you can or will be, let it all go. Why? Because in letting go of having to do or be something, you begin welcoming freedom into your life.
Imagine not having to live up to anyone’s expectations, not even your own. Imagine not having to live in the shadow of your past self or in the pain of your present self. Can you imagine that? I can and do.
Now, when I imagine what I can/will (a.k.a. should be able to) do something, I take several steps back, and tell myself two words: do less.
For example, If I tell myself I can/will do 10 minutes of yoga, then I tell myself I shall do 5 minutes of yoga. If after 5 minutes, I can actually do more, then that’s a bonus.
In other words, challenge yourself to create opportunities for success.
Everyone needs that, especially we who have fibromyalgia.
Take small steps. Expect nothing of yourself. Celebrate everything that you do.