Blog post by Jess, who has been diagnosed with borderline personality disorder, major depressive disorder, social anxiety disorder, and delayed sleep-phase disorder.
“Anyone in therapy or studying a form of psychology might be familiar with the concept of “object constancy”. This refers to a person’s ability to recreate or remember feelings of love that were present between themselves and another person after the other person is no longer physically there.
For as long as I can remember, this has been something I have struggled with. Even in primary school, I can recall how much I’d treasure scraps of notepaper from class that would “prove” I had interacted with a friend via some scribbles, or any other token or souvenir that could only be attained by being someone’s friend. Photos or presents are ideal. Whatever the keepsake, I never have enough. It never feels like enough.”