I have a tendency towards researching things. Yes, I am a bit obsessive. However, when I speak or write about a topic, I like to be as well-informed as possible. In my last posts, you may have noticed that I have been using information from Asian countries, i.e. expats living in Asian countries like Japan and Korea. I have been researching on YouTube what it is like for Black women to live in countries where they are a perceivable minority…Little did I know that this research would lead to…
Apparently, there is a growing celebration of interracial relationships between Asian Men and Black Women. I had no idea. Of course, I think it is brilliant that people of different ethnic/racial/religious/etc. can and want to get together. I am, however, a bit concerned by the seeming exoticism of it all…
I know in my life, I have tried to stay clear from people who are seeking to be in a relationship with me because they have a prepared plan of only dating Black women, because Black women are x, y, and z…,or who are seemingly fixated on my cultural background. So, I am uncertain as to what is happening here with this AMBW push.
More importantly, I have noticed that there are even virtual battles that are being waged about the beauty of Black women and where we stand on the beauty standard totem pole…And according to some, we are at the bottom. There are even some arguments that Asian men and Black women should get together, because we are both on bottom in terms of desirability…And I am like (yes, I wrote “like”), “What??!!”
Have I missed the boat here? Was there some big thing that happened culturally that I wasn’t aware of it? It’s true that I don’t watch television, listen to the radio, avoid newspapers and magazines. So, it is quite possible. When, however, did minorities exoticizing other minorities become in vogue.
(Very good YouTube video that addresses this issue. Video by Charly in Korea)
My apologies for the tirade, but…
Until Next Time.
P.S. This guy is just too much :D…
(“Interracial Dating – Korean Guy’s Perspective”
by famousamos on YouTube)
- Ladies First: The Imagery of Black Women discussion at #CBCFALC2012 (hueintheworld.wordpress.com)
- How Black Women Are Portrayed In The Media (amz1ng.wordpress.com)
- Does Scandal Exploit The Image of Black Women? (clutchmagonline.com)
- Black Women Leaders Face ‘Double Jeopardy,’ Harsher Criticism Than Others: Study (terribleboss.wordpress.com)
- Do Interracial Relationships and Self-Hate Go Hand in Hand? (blogher.com)
- Travelling while female…and Black (Part 1) (diedreblake.wordpress.com)
- Myth Busters: Black Women only get “ugly” White Men (blackwomenwhitemen.wordpress.com)
One thought on “AMBW… What??”
The same for me! Although it’s quite an interesting topic and I myself would love to be in an AMBW relationship. I feel like a lot of Black women are in the norm to make these videos because you hardly see it the other way around and from I’ve been told, some people think Black women are now desperate
Anyways, I hope you take the time to read my article however about AMBW http://nynyonlinex.wordpress.com/2012/10/30/why-is-it-not-okay-to-like-only-one-race/ I’m gonna start writing more similar 🙂